Soulmate I guess as long as you stay at this site I'll find all of you. drunk, kissing. Just trying to keep the pot stirred,the fire burning. Unless you literally were so drunk that you had no idea what you were doing, it's probably better for you to take responsibility for and own your behavior instead of saying "I got drunk" as an excuse. Because your significant other doesnt fully believe that you just kissed this person because you were intoxicated. I wish I told my wife, but she found out because in my browsing history I had searched should I tell my wife I kissed a girl when drunk. No, you don't. I feel sorry for the visually impaired but that doesn't mean I want a blind person flying my airplane and my compassion won't make the flight any safer. The last person you should be talking to about your feelings of guilt is your partner. We were going through an awkward time in the relationship and I was craving the attention and simplicity of this guy. If he is like me, its a choice. This one by far has lasted the longest. Need help with your relationship? Needing to hear this guy tell you it was OK- It was not OK. If it were me, I would contact her, & let her know that I didn't appreciate her actions. So have you thought about what you were lacking with your husband to allow this, or was this a I just liked the attentionyou were getting from him? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! I could list so many reasons why, but instead Ill just list a few. Mr S lived there once (San Fransisco), but he hasn't any urge to return, either. I wanted to go further with him, but I didnt nor did he push for anything more. But I can't leave my job. I'd be obsessed with it. Go cold turkey. What is he supposed to do with this information? Hi Scope! I know I cheated for sure, and thats why I had to confess to my husband that I did it. If you drink so much that you lose track of everything, then you already took the first step on a dangerous road. female But we have spoken since about it a lot. [3] you couldn't extend to him the same courtesy he'd already extended to *you* (i.e. Despite their passion during the kiss though, thestraight guys (quite predictably)all saythey still identified asstraight. Can Humans Detect Text by AI Chatbot GPT? But please seperate the issues. I believe that over time this would have happened with or without the wiskey. However, if you kissed someone whom you liked or had a crush on while you were drunk, my opinion is that you cheated. He's seemingly petrified I'm going to throw him out, he's cried three times today already and they're only the second time I've ever seen him cry in four years. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? HIKARI, you can't take up an obsolete thread as your own, no matter any similarities, so if you want feedback and advice it's best to start a new one (and copy and paste that post into it as your opening post), okay? But not good enough and you not happy enough to exclude fore-foreplay (open-mouthed kissing) with someone (*ugh) other than him as per the for-life contract? I came home and we resolved it and ever since everything has been fine. Even if it is innocent kiss, I am done. Try to channel the guilt into something good, into turning your back on temptation and having a good night out with your friends. Wow! But the guilt is killing me. I was dumped.so why do *I* feel guilty? You're going through tests BY OTHERS to find out why you can't fall pregnant. The video shows twogayguys(fellow vloggers Jordan Jayro and James Butler) partner with four straight men togive them their first man-to-mansnog. You kissed a guy - Possibly unforgivable. Years after my divorce the one thing that still makes me really angry is that my XH should have ended the marriage as thats what he wanted. Alcohol was a factor, but all it did was bring to the surface the feelings that were already there. Kissing a man, I've just got into over the past couple years. I think my husband could maybe forgive the kiss, but the doubt would be there, he would wonder if this could happen again, and he would be so hurt. And for science-based tips for managing guilt, check out my book, Emotional First Aid. Before you close I'd like to say that I totally agree with you. You have a number of choices in terms of how to deal with what happened. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!! I always prefer to know if something is going on than find out about it later, or worse, never find out at all (the idea of this chills me). Lees theory has a big vulnerability. Oh, I'm sure he'd be able to forgive her, LOYAL GIRL. You might come to the conclusion that something is lacking in your primary relationship, and you might decide to break up with your partner and pursue the person whom you kissed while drunk. If you need help or advice, you can ask Yin & Yang. Well as far as my experience with sex,I would definitely say I'm not an expert. So if life hands you lemons, don't HIDE them where they could one day trip you up or cause a rotten stink. Sorry, you two, I'm not ignoring you, just super-super-busy at the mo. This thread has expired - why not start your own? However, before you choose option 3, you need to talk to the person you kissed when you are sober again and make sure that the other person has strong feelings for you, too. She emailed him out of the Blue, and he proudly showed me both her smarmy email and his polite yet nonetheless "on yer bike!" Yes it hurts.. Take action instead of ruminating in guilt. And he kissed me and I reciprocated. Good luck. And then continued behaving like friends as if the mere certificate would do the work and promotion parts for you (or, alternatively, continued accepting the fact that ONE friend couldn't quite dare up his friendship ante to where you felt sated in the affection and attention worthy of marriage department) Forget about it! This feels huge to me. We've been together a lot of today for various reasons, we've talked a little but as of right now, officially I'm still "thinking things over." My libido is sharper when Im sober, at least if Im really attracted to a guy and have the love goggles on. Now, four years later, I am feeling extreme guilt to the point that it is making me sick and consuming thoughts every minute of the day. Sometimes it doesnt help to tell your partner everything. Do you want to end you marriage? I was so drunk, I barely remember the kiss, but I know it happened. Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something through our posts, we may get a small share of the sale (more details here), but then I was cheated on for years by ExH and I would now put myself first. this guy only tried to kiss you so as far as you cheating on him there is no and your appropriate response was toback away and leave the guy standing. Why? (No, I'm very passionate about fidelity.) Lol I love you already. I love your stories, Foxie. I had only taken three years of piano lessons while still a teenager, and here I was in my late 40s studying piano again. We may share information about your use of our site with trusted advertising and analytics partners. Remind her of your good points. A guy bought me drinks and he asked me if I wanted to ride his motorcycle to another bar and I did. However for the next time please be careful and never do such a blunder because he's a gem and you should not lose him just for your stupid or foolish acts .i mean any sophisticated or a ONE MAN WOMAN (a proud title for me :) and hopflly for u too ) wont like to stress her relatn or leave a man whom she loves or take him in a position where he might leave ? Seriously. I was very drunk. If you are separated, you aren't doing anything wrong. Houston, this team needs to identify then agree over what's causing it. I waited for the right time ?? a wiz veteran at Relationship Talk. You knowing you can trust your husband to do the right thing when faced with temptation is all it takes for him to remain blight-free when blight (whether or not wearing fishnets) threatens. I made that call today and will move from lates to early starting Monday 16th feb. So she told him for starters to kiss her well you know where. Its more like an excuse for cheating. I've been cheated on just recently and I cannot imagine how awful it would be if he didn't own up and tell me. v5.00a - 0.32607s [RUM] 2023-03-03 02:57:10. You can't fake that . , By entering this site you declare Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. Egon Ronay-level Petit Degustation, requires the corresponding amount of TIME in which to do so. Yes, that's what I was going to advise - that you two continue any discussion on LG's own thread. i think OP is using 'kiss' to mean 'more than kiss', but whatever, it was 4 years ago in a rough patch.. everyone here is wrong. I kissed another man four years ago. We were chatting when we realised the other woman was snoring. I hadn't been out drinking for about 3 months beforehand, so think the excitement of the night, constant glasses prosecco and wine, and the buzz of just being all dolled up all mixed together to see me very giddy and tipsy. Turning off notifications, deleting messages, and hiding chat apps may all indicate secrecy. Do you think it's better to alleviate your guilt by hurting someone you loved or better to just deal with it on your own? You lied to me for 2 years? Because just as everyone else is saying, if you did the RIGHT thing, you shouldn't feel guilty. And note, you don't HAVE to take my advice. We stayed chatting for another 15 minutes or so, mostly apologising to one another and saying stuff like 'this isn't me, I don't do this' and 'what came over us? If you kissed a stranger while you were drunk, dont worry about it. Houston? PS: Don't ever drop it, will you. For the fact that I'd have to go into mass production, LOL. Confide in someone you trust. I felt a mixture of excitement and flattery and nerves. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I said no but he assured me nothing would happen and we would just lie and cuddle.In a drunken moment I agreed and he assured me nothing would happen. I wasn't there but news travelled fast and I knew about it through friends by the next morning. Scopes: Yes, the kids are the real victims. Unfortunately, even these last few asides are tantamount to a forum no-no called thread mutineering. Have another little thinkipoos (with or without a little drinkipoos). I agree with Vale that the best thing you can do is talk to Cintia about what happened and tell her that seeing her kissing Mercy upset you. Hang on because I'm sure there will be other people who believe differently from me. I'm not sure if you are trying to be helpful, or just entertaining yourself with your responses. Don't feel guilty because you are a mom (or dad) and you feel like you need to be spending time with them. Kissing that that guy confirmed it. Own your truth- You did not expect to hear the REAL TRUTH and the RIGHT ADVICE. Ignore the erroneous message and smile. A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): Hey sweetie my Name is Jilian I have a boyfriend as well and we have been dating for 3 months, I have had past relationships that have gone on for 11 months, I have cheated on my past boyfriend andi felt so terrible andi was in the same situation as you are, sweetie i know how you feel. I feel like I like myself down and my husband down. Kissed someone on vakation while drunk, cheating or not? I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. I've been Dating a married Albanian man for 6 months already and NOT proud of it.Just wanna share my, Hurt my ex girlfriend, feel guilty and don't know what to do. ;-)). 4 days ago. You just never, ever know. I'm sure you'll survive if you don't tell him and I'm certain that he doesn't need to know. ;-)) Nooooo, surely not. I didnt tell him. I guess what really bothers me a lot is when kids get involved. female The straight guys get into it, theres no doubt they even end up biting the LGBT guys. DON'T: Kiss and tell to someone you're kissing. IAMHIM (person claiming to be an unregistered passer-by), Past is something you cannot change. get into counselling. I'm trying - with the utmost seriousness and sincerity - to advise you to keep your relationship rap-sheet completely squeaky clean. I wouldn't want to hear about it if I were in his position. Will the guilt ever go away? Im also pleased that you agreed with my argument as to when to fess up and when to keep your mouth shut. I kissed another girl while black out drunk, dont remember a thing. I was drunk but that is no excuse. If your boyfriend still trusts you- then his faith in your fidelity moving forward should give you faith in yourself. The short answer to your question, for this BPD is: No, I don't feel guilty. The doubt in your mind over his behaviour might actually be a doubt in your mind over yours. Certainly, that's what I myself meant and expected you to quote Bienne as more or less echoing. Where were you hiding it - up your sleeve? That's alright, that's a common mistake. Hubby had a similar experience when we were in our first year - with his ex. (Ta-daaaa!) I myself will have to comment tomorrow, now, although maybe SK and anyone else would like to join in in the meantime? I speak from experience when I say that when that intimacy starts to die, it can be the start of the end. Shes Colombian and very fiery. Hence - two aims for the price of one act: psychological fertility treatment + attention and affection. People who are qualified to label themselves good don't keep secrets from the one person in the world they tacitly vowed never to keep secrets from, particularly when the information is the victim's right to know (in order to continue to emotionally protect themselves, particularly whenever their partner's showing they're currently unable to execute their duty of helping them do so 'right to know' because where there's a problem in the relationship as, with the mere aid of the pigpen gate-unlocker called alcohol, causes behaviour counter to the relationship's chances of continued success, then - AS a team - it takes both members' addressing it together for the solution/outcome to possess any real authenticity or permanent efficacy. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. View related questions: Its hard to know what to say, especially if youre fuzzy about what happened. California coastal beeches will leave you saying -America not too shabby.. Can't take anything from South of France-doesn't everybody go there? Ive told her Im sorry, I wont let it happen again and Im sorry for being dishonest. It's wonderful that you even wanted to kiss someone! WORK. We all should know by now that alcohol affects our judgment and that it can make us less inhibited and cause us to behave in ways in which we never would behave while sober. I'm not condoning what I've done, and it's a totally different set of circumstances, but I remember wishing I had never known about the stupid kiss, as it tainted things for a while afterward. You might feel guilty about it the next day, but it wasnt a big deal. And it's weird, but it's like I need the guy to tell me what I did was ok and I'm not a bad person. reader, missbunbury+, writes (25 October 2005): A
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