I seem to recall, at some point in recent history, having a series of strong or definitive emotions about Dharun Ravi, but those emotions seem half-baked in retrospect. "[100], "As to the so-called 'apology,' it was, of course, no apology at all, but a public relations piece produced by Mr. Ravi's advisers only after Judge Berman scolded Mr. Ravi in open court for his failure to have expressed a word of remorse or apology. What he did wasnt good, I dont endorse it, it was shitty, but he is NOT a murderer. 35% of LGB youth, versus 10% of straight youth, report suicide attempts. The three-judge panel dismissed four bias intimidation counts against Dharun Ravi because of a change in state law since Ravi's 2012 trial. I cant stop and buy a fucking cup of coffee without hearing someone talk about him, or how they feel about the case, the verdict, the *apology*. The part about spying was ruled hearsay and not admissible. If I took the plea, I would have had to testify that I did what I did to intimidate Tyler and that would be a lie. Ravi wrote: "Roommate asked for the room till midnight. It was as if bias can only go one way and Indians can only be its victims. I feel sorry for Ravi and bewildered at peoples anger towards him. And I think its pretty clear in this case that the person was mentally ill. [35], Under New Jersey law, one commits a fourth-degree crime of invasion of privacy if one observes another person without that person's consent under circumstances in which a "reasonable person would know that another may expose intimate parts or may engage in sexual penetration or sexual contact." Most Americans in his position would have jumped at it. The question is why can't he apologise. My petitions. But yesterday he spoke, admitting his guilt to a charge of 3th degree attempted invasion of privacy, just one month after an appellate court overturned his previous conviction, dismissed five of the bias intimidation charges and recommended a new trial on the others. I think Ravi did what he did in some state of out-of-control, juvenile, hysteria when he was not able to cope with the sexual context of the older man, his room-mate and the concept of homosexuality in general to which he probably had no real exposure. He had also shoplifted, stolen a video game worth $10, two packs of Tylenol cold medicine and four packs of cigarettes. Perhaps he could not deal with the reality of his actions after he lived his fantasy dream. He was on trial for the invasion of his privacy. [97] Ravi declined the opportunity to speak at the sentencing hearing[98] and was reprimanded by Judge Berman for not having publicly apologized: "I heard this jury say guilty 288 times24 questions, 12 jurors, that's the multiplication. Ive written about how strange it is that what Ravi did to Clementi is done by college boys to college girls every day in this countryand nobody does anything about it, and how anybody whos been there probably isnt that shocked that Ravi saw his behavior as somehow acceptable or normal within the surprisingly primal environment of undergraduate co-habitation. The student also testified that Ravi seemed uncomfortable with his roommate's being gay, but had said nothing explicitly "disparaging". Stella, thanks for your application, but weve filled our victim-blaming crazytalk quota for this intake. Additionally, a survey indicates that one in five college students believe that their depression level is higher than it should be, yet only 6% say that they would seek help. Many people convicted of crimes address the victims and their families in court. Ravi subsequently accepted a guilty plea deal from prosecutors, for one count of attempted invasion of privacy. Ravi was convicted in 2012 on 15 counts, including bias intimidation and invasion of privacy. The "state of New Jersey vs. Dharun Ravi" was over, six years' worth, just like that. Yup, leave it to Ravi to present an apology that didnt actually involve apologizing! The immigration system does not give anyone a second chance for being a dumb teenager. His press release did not mention Tyler or our family, and it included no words of sincere remorse, compassion or responsibility for the pain he caused. "I wasn't going to admit to something I didn't do.". [95][96], Judge Berman said that Ravi's "'letter of apology' to the pre-sentence people" was "unimpressive" and "didn't even mention the seven cover-up charges". If you purchase a product or register for an account through one of the links on our site, we may receive compensation. I had always had mixed feelings about the case. Thats the multiplication. You were born to write! Dharun Ravi - Searching for Answers (This blog was first posted on April 1, 2012) As an Indian-American, one can't turn anywhere without hearing the name 'Dharun Ravi'. Like many of his neighbors KK fell into drugs and gangs while growing up on the hard-scrabble streets of a poor neighborhood in Long Beach, California. And that is where Dharun Ravi and his family have fallen grievously short. They were convicted of crimes, big and small. "[16], In an interview with investigators, Ravi said that on September 21 he had turned the webcam away from Clementi's bed. [44] Clementi's parents "supported leniency for Wei", believing that her "actions, although unlawful, were substantially different in their nature and their extent than the actions of Tyler's former roommate" and that she "was forthcoming and cooperative during the investigation. "If this kid ends up in jail on Monday my faith will be shaken in this country," said Sandeep Sharma, Ravi's father's business associate. And I haven't heard you apologize once."[99]. It's been 3 1/2 years since he was convicted on 15 counts of bias intimidation, invasion of privacy and evidence tampering for cyberspying on his roommate Tyler Clementi. I'm relieved," Ravi said before leaving Middlesex County Superior Court with his parents. Is any racism at play here, too? Although Clementi could not see Ravi's phone text messages, he saw his Twitter postings the next day. Community Rules apply to all content you upload or otherwise submit to this site. [67] " Ravi answered, "No that was a joke. "[45], In December 2011, Ravi rejected a plea agreement in which he would not spend any time in jail and through which the prosecutor's office would assist him in fighting any potential deportation orders. The interesting part here is that the prosecution, not the defense, fought to suppress that correspondence. Indian Americans are still very hesitant to openly reflect and dialogue about the problems in our community. Maybe hes a jackass homophobe sociopath. [64], M.B. I accept responsibility for and regret my thoughtless, insensitive, immature, stupid and childish choices that I made on September 19, 2010 and September 21, 2010. Yes, kids hook up with other kids in college all the time. You don't apologize to change people's minds or how people see you. But until he says it we can never be sure whether he is only sorry for himself. Mark Di Ionno may be reached atmdiionno@starledger.com. He wants to be just another guy from the I.T. Studies indicate that college students who are suicidal are quiet, reserved, depressed, and socially isolated, and thus it is up to all of us to try to identify thesuicide warning signsand get help for them. I apologize to everyone affected by those choices. Be careful it could get nasty. We still dont know why he jumped. They need 25,000 signatures before April 15. Ravi told Huang the next day, "It got messed up and didn't work." I present to you Ravis rehearsed and empty apology (via): Last Monday, I was sentenced to 3 years probation, 300 hours of community service, a fine of more than $10,000.00, and 30 days in jail. [21], At 6:39p.m., Ravi tweeted, "Anyone with iChat, I dare you to video chat me between the hours of 9:30 and 12. 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And again, untreated depression is the number one cause for suicide. Thank you for your work! [80], In a news analysis published shortly before the verdict was announced, Chris Cuomo of ABC News wrote that "for the most part, the consensus of reporters and legal analysts following the trial is that the state's hate crime charges are thin, at best. Its the only way I can go on with my life. There will be no new trial. I made my point. Again, Tyler had this plan to meet MB before he ever got to the school. Again, would you really want your son or daughter to share a room with anyone that would invite someone met on the internet into the room? [16] By 8:42p.m., Clementi had made his way to the George Washington Bridge and posted from his cell phone on Facebook, "Jumping off the gw bridge sorry."[16]. NEW BRUNSWICK, N.J. March 1, 2012 -- A Rutgers police officer testified today that when he searched for missing student Tyler Clementi his roommate Dharun Ravi did not mention that Clementi was upset over Ravi's alleged webcam spying and had asked to switch rooms the previous day. /* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block. By pleading guilty to the. To me, that is worse than the webcam. "He literally eats only one meal a day as he suppresses his hunger. The people that are fighting for gay rights, they have a just cause. 's testimony, he and Clementi met on a social network site and the September 19 meeting was the second of three dates. [30], On September 22, a friend of Ravi asked what had happened to the live stream the night before. [37][38] After further investigation, the prosecution concluded that there was evidence supporting a hate crime charge against Ravi, dating to when Ravi first learned Clementi's name. i didnt know martina is a TERF, damn thats sad and frustrating., these are the best knot tying instructions on the internet. By entering your email and clicking Sign Up, you're agreeing to let us send you customized marketing messages about us and our advertising partners. Regarding bias intimidation, Fahy said that there was "not a lot of proof" that the viewing was done because Clementi was gay. Whether in this country or in India, homophobia is perpetuated by a society which never speaks about homosexuality or if it does, it is in hushed tones, wink-wink talk or with outright disapproval. In cross-examination, he noted he remembered this only when it later became relevant. Ive written here, in the past, about how blaming Ravi for Tyler Clementis suicide does us all a disservice, because it glosses over Clementis potential depression and social anxiety problemsand the myriad of other issues that led him to the bridge that night. The question is not whether Dharun Ravi deserved 30 days in jail or more for that infamous webcam spying on his roommate. Riese is the 40-year-old Co-Founder and CEO of Autostraddle.com as well as an award-winning writer, video-maker, LGBTQ+ Marketing consultant and aspiring cyber-performance artist who grew up in Michigan, lost her mind in New York and now lives in California. Im glad youre done writing about this fucktard, because here in NJ they wont be done for awhile. window.dojoRequire(["mojo/signup-forms/Loader"], function(L) { L.start({"baseUrl":"mc.us2.list-manage.com","uuid":"19094dcdbabfb642bafc9b375","lid":"55d048fd69","uniqueMethods":true}) }), Lassi with Lavina is a dhaba-style offering of life and the arts through the prism of India. Two of these students testified that Ravi also said he wanted to confirm that his roommate was gay. just read his statement for the first time. You really need to just stop talking like 5 minutes ago. When he left the room, there were about five students who "seemed to be looking at me and it seemed kind of unsettling". I turned on my camera and saw you in the corner of the screen and I immediately closed it. You didnt do anything to deserve being bullied, Obama said. I cant get away from this fucking story. I know people have said it before, but you really need to write a book. While Ravi was out for the evening on September 17, the man came to Clementi's dorm room for the first time. But Dharun Ravi, it's not about you. Great article, Riese. "[43], Wei and the prosecutor reached a plea agreement on May 6, 2011. "[46], Ravi was represented during the trial by attorneys Steven Altman and Philip Nettl of the New Jersey criminal defense law firm Benedict & Altman. For starters, the stigma around men and mental illness we know men are far less likely to seek treatment for mental health issues such as depression. I would buy at least two copies! I almost didnt want to comment on this article because I am so tired of this case But I feel that this article is particularly good. as if he doesn't exist", yet M.B. Reporters, bloggers and columnists across the US have weighed in on this and for once, the Indian-American community has had plenty to say. In February 2016, Ravi asked the courts to overturn his convictions. "[86], Glenn Berman, the judge who presided over Ravi's trial, said that the New Jersey statute was "muddled" and that he would have written it differently. Cookie Settings/Do Not Sell My Personal Information. Giving simple yes and no answers, Ravi was led through a series of about 30 questions, including the understanding they he could possibly face deportation, although the judge went on record saying he would oppose it. [39] On April 20, 2011, a Middlesex County grand jury indicted Ravi on 15 counts, including bias intimidation, invasion of privacy, witness tampering, and evidence tampering. Clementi doing that ruined Ravis life? Wei said that both she and Ravi were "shocked" when they saw Clementi and another man leaning against the bed kissing. Several minutes later she chatted about the incident online. Riese, your article is brilliant again! That's what Ravi does now. You apologize because something you did caused terrible damage, even if unintended, in someone else's life. He owes Tyler an apology, and maybe Tylers family too though honestly I feel weird about the latter becauseTyler had come out to his parents shortly before his suicide, and reported to a friend that its a good thing dad is ok w/it or i would be in serious troublemom has basically completely rejected meshe seems very dismissive. His mother told the police that Clementi had revealed some disturbing information to her three weeks before the suicide. I apologize to everyone affected by those choices. On September 23, Ravi and Huang discussed Clementi's death and Huang asked, "Didn't you say there was a viewing party once. #mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; } You apologize for what you have done, for what has happened. In an exclusive interview in this column just hours after he was convicted, Ravi said, "I'm never going to regret not taking the plea. I feel like hes probably just a homophobic asshole and not an evil, conniving person, which really worries me because homophobic assholes are everywhere. At 10:19 Clementi's guest arrived. Your former roommate cant go on with his life, you stupid pig. One, as an 18 year old surrounded by other 18 year olds in a college dorm, it is strange to see an older (30 year old) man or woman in the dorms in a sexual context. If Ravi has to be a whipping boy, it should be for the real need for education on ethics. What I wanted to say with that rant was that I dont understand why someone looks at 30 days of gaol time and thinks its massively too short. Several prosecution witnesses testified Ravi never complained about Clementi being gay, only that he was quiet. Ravi is a citizen of India living legally in the United States. But we can probably be certain of one thing. Mr. Ravi was given that opportunity but chose to say nothing. M.B. The messages were sent after Ravi had been visited that afternoon by the resident assistant and told of Clementi's complaint: "I want to explain what happened. irrespective of titles and money! Berman kept them out of the trial because Ravi wasn't charged in Clementi's death. To me, that is worse than the webcam. What kind of misbegotten family values is that? I don't want your freshman year to be ruined because of a petty misunderstanding, it's adding to my guilt. We start off teaching our kindergartners to say thank you and sorry and to be nice to people. [16] Ravi has stated that he realized that his "joke" was "stupid", and pointed the webcam towards his own bed before the planned viewing on September 21. [1][54], Defense attorney Steven Altman said that Ravi's actions were those of an "18-year-old boy". . Born in India, raised most of his life in the U.S. but still an Indian citizen, he was afraid he would be deported to India. We know that gay men are more likely than straight men to delay or not get needed medical help or prescription drugs and we also know that LGB adults are more likely to need medication for emotional health issues than straight people (22% vs. 10%). A sincere apology is personal. Crass video games and reality shows rule our world, and nasty behavior is considered just another hi-jink; its a cool game to trespass on peoples privacy, to destroy their self-esteem. Not because he was GAY but because he was 1)a stranger and 2)beyond the reasonable age group for the environment. I would love to have like 3 close friends I NEED conversation, its just that I cant DO it.. [17][50] This evidence included documents that showed that Clementi had titled files on his computer "Why does it have to be so painful" and took photographs of the George Washington Bridge a month before entering Rutgers. "[16], On September 28, 2010, Dharun Ravi and Molly Wei were charged with four and two counts of invasion of privacy, respectively, for their roles in the webcam spying incidents on September 19, 2010 and September 21, 2010. He also said that Ravi himself needed to testify to show he had no bias against gays and to explain the inconsistencies in his recorded interview with the police. Clementi's family, M.B., and the judge all recommended Ravi not be deported. I went into molly's room and turned on my webcam. Obviously I told people what occurred so they could give me advice. [8] Marcellus A. McRae, a former federal prosecutor uninvolved in the case, hailed the guilty verdicts as "a watershed moment, because it says youth is not immunity". [20] Clementi viewed Ravi's Twitter posts 38 times following the first webcam viewing. What we do know, as testified, was that Tyler & MB had planned these meetings for sometime. Judicial discretion was pretty much eliminated. He says he will submit to his jail sentence on Thursday. In Dharun Ravi, the politicians and the media found a face to pin the bully tag on. 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He lost his gamble and now faces up to 10 years in prison and deportation. Sympathy for Clementi, true sorrow at his death, is his parents and friends. I have it pointed at his bed. I'm also unaware of any evidence that any video was recorded, reproduced or disseminated in any way. Is that because the perpetrator is Indian and his guilt is sullying the collective shining image of Indian-Americans? You've decided to leave a comment. Comments. Most are walking a straight line (until they learn the lay of the land) the first few weeks (months) of college. The character witnesses called, he said, were ineffective because the prosecution showed there was "no foundation" for them to say that Ravi was not anti-gay. A true apology comes without strings attached. I mean,Ive always felt like hes exactly the kind of guy I wouldve hated in college, the kind of guy who wouldve contributed to the sexist shit-talking that made me loathe living in the dorms and wonder whyguys like him were somehow immune to the criticism they so eagerly piled upon their female and gay male classmates. Lavina Melwani is a New York-based journalist who writes for several international publications. It requires being in an EXTREMELY altered state of mind. Youve put in to words pretty much exactly what Ive been thinking about this whole thing. Prosecutor Julia McClure said that the apology was one of "many attempts" by Ravi to "dilute, cover up and explain, in other words to tamper with the facts and to fabricate evidence that could be looked on as favorable to him. Dharun Ravi surely never imagined that that webcam could become a one-way ticket to his own deportation. I think it's bad for them. [89] In a New York Times op-ed piece, journalist Emily Bazelon argued that, while Ravi's invasion of Clementi's privacy "should be out of bounds on a college campus," the punishment he faced was disproportionate to that crime, and that hate crime laws were not intended for these types of actions. "He [the resident assistant] seemed to take it seriously," Clementi wrote in a post about 15 hours before his jump from the George Washington Bridge. message boards about complaints he filed through university channels about his roommate. "[70], Two Rutgers students testified that Ravi, in an apparent test of his webcam, used computers in their rooms to connect to his own. [80], Jack Levin, an authority on hate crimes, was skeptical of the case for bias intimidation, saying of Ravi that "it becomes difficult to determine whether the motivation was due to sexual orientation or some other conflicts between the roommates that have nothing to do with sexual orientation", although he also noted that the position of the camera had raised doubts about Ravi's contention that he was primarily concerned about protecting his possessions.
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